Dilemma of Working Women Experienced with Long Distance Marriage

Artiawati, Artiawati (2010) Dilemma of Working Women Experienced with Long Distance Marriage. In: THE FIRST INTERNATIONAL CONFERENCE OF INDIGENOUS & CULTURAL PSYCHOLOGY, 24 juli 2010, faculty of Psychology Universitas Gadjah Mada.

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Women, who choose to participate in public sector, are often confronted with problems relating to the functions in performing that role. Patriarchal culture, patterned in the minds of Indonesian society is often being an obstacle for working mother. Negative labels always seemed to accompany, especially for women who must experienced with long distance marriage. Problems encountered are more complex. This study is aimed at exploring reasons behind the decision to live with long distance marriage and strategies in dealing with problems as a result to chose working separately from family. More specifically, the phenomenon of work-family conflict is further explored. Participants of this study are four women who work and live apart from their husbands. The four informants have different work backgrounds. Two people are managers. The other participants are the finance staff and the entrepreneur. This study uses a qualitative approach with a critical feminism paradigm. The process of data collection was done by interviews and observation. Results from this study indicate that beside to meet the needs of families, the decision to choose working separately from their husbands influenced by parenting systems adopted by the working mother, which is demanding independence. Values internalized by participants are to meet parent’s expectation to succeed in work as their parents have spent effort to support them to have high level education. Parents also serve as a model of Faculty of Psychology Universitas Gadjah Mada 2010 31 hard worker. However, the problem often occurred is a time-based conflict. Time owned only be used to conduct activities in a particular role can not fulfill duties in other roles. Social support, particularly support from husband play vital role in the process of dealing with the problems that arise in the life of participants. In addition, the presence of a child is also an important factor to survive. Another interesting finding is that the bargaining power held by women depending on their position on the job. The higher level of job, the stronger power gained by women. They are better able to manage their life because they are used to manage subordinates, set the time and firm in making a decision related to their job. This is certainly influential in the daily life in the family, how they manage time for my husband and children. Participant with the lowest level of job has the lowest bargaining power. She tends to avoid confrontation with husband when having problems. Letting go and accepting all decisions made by her husband. Finally, well-being of working mother experienced with long distance marriage depends on how she values her life as independent women. They enjoy their roles, which can actualize their potentials and freely enjoying their time without obligation to care husband

Item Type: Conference or Workshop Item (Speech)
Subjects: B Philosophy. Psychology. Religion > BF Psychology
Divisions: Faculty of Psychology > Department of Psychology
Depositing User: Artiawati Mawardi 5133
Date Deposited: 10 Apr 2023 10:47
Last Modified: 11 Apr 2023 04:12
URI: http://repository.ubaya.ac.id/id/eprint/43936

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